Are You And Your Partner Are Having Difficulty Communicating And Connecting?
Have increased disagreements or arguments in your relationship left you feeling disconnected from your partner? Are you struggling to address challenges openly and honestly without dissolving into conflict? Maybe you try to discuss difficult topics only to repeat the same unproductive pattern of communication over and over without resolution.
Do you find yourself walking on eggshells for fear of broaching sensitive topics? Or do you avoid talking about things all together to maintain what connection you have? You may feel like you have tried everything to communicate with your partner, but keep getting stuck in the same rut.
Do you long to find a way to connect again with your mate?
All Partnerships Face Challenges
Everyone who is in a partnership experiences difficulties. It is natural for a relationship to experience growing pains as people learn, change, and grow in their relationship with themselves and each other. Many people find themselves feeling disconnected from their partner at some point in their lives, particularly if they have been together for many years. It is not uncommon for couples to find themselves on opposite ends of difficult topics as two people with different ways of communicating, connecting, and resolving conflict come together to form a relationship.
Every couple establishes patterns of communication. And while some patterns can lead to greater connection, others can create unwanted or unseen barriers to openness and understanding between partners, contributing to a cycle of conflict and disconnection. Some couples find they can navigate this cycle and find their way back to connection easily. For others, the cycle is more difficult to interrupt and they find themselves feeling disconnected and alone, as they struggle to communicate their feelings and needs to their partner.
With communication counseling, you and your partner can learn the skills you need to reconnect and foster healthier, more open and honest interactions.
Marriage Counseling Can Help You Find Your Way Back To Effective Communication and Connection
In a warm supportive environment we will build a safe space for the two of you to discuss those difficult topics that are contributing to the cycle of conflict and disconnection. In this safe space, each of you will learn how to identify unmet needs and vulnerable feelings that are triggering reactive emotions, thoughts, and behaviors and leading to ineffective communication. You will learn to identify when you and your partner are in the cycle of disconnection and learn to band together to interrupt it and restore peace in your relationship.
With marriage and communication counseling, we will explore the blocks and barriers that keep you from being able to communicate effectively and connect vulnerably with your emotional experience and that of your partner’s. You and your partner will learn to recognize and share your wants, needs, and experiences with each other. In this way, you will transform yourself and your relationship and foster an authentic, vulnerable connection where you can more easily communicate about even the most difficult topics.
We Think Marriage And Communication Counseling Can Help But We Still Have Doubts…..
We Want To Try Marriage Counseling But We’re Afraid It Will Stir Things Up And Make Things Worse
It is not uncommon to worry that coming to marriage counseling will make things worse. Marriage counseling does explore those areas that have been challenging to talk about, exposing pain that has been difficult to bear, or perhaps has been ignored, avoided, or pushed away. And if you are already feeling distressed and disconnected, it can be scary to open up about problematic issues for fear that it will only get worse. That being said, not addressing the pain in your relationship can only lead to further disconnection, difficulty communicating, and possibly divorce. Marriage and communication counseling can help you feel confident again in your ability to communicate effectively with your partner. Together, you can find your way back to the connection you both long for.
Communication Counseling Sounds Like A Lot Of Work. We’re Not Sure We Have The Energy For It
Relationships take a lot of work, especially when they are in distress. When in distress, it does take more energy to remove the blocks and barriers to effective communication and satisfying connection. If you do nothing, however, you will likely have a difficult time interrupting the cycle of disconnection, until one day you may find yourself considering divorce. I invite you to think of the energy you invest in marriage and communication counseling as an investment in yourself and the success of your marriage. As you begin to work on some of the blocks to connection, you may find that you actually feel more energized and want to continue.
We Want To Participate But We Are Afraid Of How Much Time It Will Take
It is understandable that you would be concerned about the amount of time marriage counseling can take. It can take time to explore how your unmet needs and vulnerable feelings trigger reactive emotions, thoughts, or behaviors and unhealthy patterns of communication. While you and your partner won’t learn overnight when the cycle of disconnection is happening in your relationship, with each session you will gain new tools and resource to foster healthy communication, connection, and healing. And, as you make strides toward reconnection, you might even find that you are looking forward to each session and the skills you will learn.
If you are ready to feel more confident in your ability to effectively communicate and connect with your partner, or if you still have questions about marriage and communication counseling, I invite you to call me at 916-443-5354 for a free 15-minute phone consultation.